Getting pregnant seems like it should be pretty easy, right? While that’s true for some, it can take a long time for some couples to conceive. In this post you’ll get the scoop on everything you need to know to get pregnant fast.
Now, let’s start with the basics. What does it mean to get pregnant? It means that the woman’s egg is released from one of her ovaries, and it is fertilized by sperm. The sperm have to swim alllll the way past the woman’s cervix and find the egg, and then penetrate that egg to cause fertilization. The cells start multiplying, and the fertilized egg needs to implant into the lining of the uterus. Once this implantation occurs, the cells continue to divide rapidly and eventually form your sweet baby!
This all sounds great, right? But exactly how do you get pregnant?
A little backstory:
A I went through fertility treatments to conceive my first daughter. I had undiagnosed PCOS, and after stopping birth control and having no cycle for several months, my primary care physician ordered some tests.
My testosterone levels were very high, I had started gaining weight the second I stopped birth control, and I had no cycle whatsoever! I had an “immeasurable” number of cysts on my ovaries, my hormone levels were erratic, and was told by several physicians I would never conceive without fertility treatments.
Before I knew about the PCOS, I did tons of research and tried every technique to get pregnant! Nothing was working, even though I was getting loads of positives on my home ovulation predictor kits (common in people with PCOS) and was following every piece of advice. After a few months of this, I sought medical advice.
I was fortunate to conceive with fertility meds, and had my gorgeous daughter in 2017. When she was about 9 months old, I thought I had the weirdest stomach virus ever with random bursts of nausea and exhaustion mixed in with feeling perfectly normal. My husband suggested I take a pregnancy test, and I was shocked to see that I conceived my perfect little miracle baby!
She is an absolute joy in my life, and I am so blessed to be her mama. She is the baby I never knew I could have, and she is the perfect, happiest, chunkiest, sweetest addition to our family!
Sometimes our journey is different than we anticipated. This post is just a guide, and a place for me to share everything I have learned!
I hope that you have the easiest time getting pregnant, but please know that infertility is a very common struggle, and you are absolutely not alone if that is the journey that faces you.
If you are struggling with infertility and need a friend, please reach out! I’d love to hear from you <3
Anyways, thanks for reading my story, and keep reading for more information on how to get pregnant!
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You can only get pregnant when you ovulate!
Yes, it’s true! You can’t get pregnant at any point during your cycle.
In fact, the window of time that you can get pregnant during is only a few days long.
The days that you can get pregnant is often called your fertile window.
Ovulation is when a woman’s ovary releases an egg. There are two ovaries, but an egg is typically only released from one of them each cycle. In the case of fraternal twins, two eggs are released, though this is not the norm.
Without getting too technical, the gist of it is: your body’s hormones start to change, and causes a little fluid filled sac called a follicle to build inside of the ovary. When the hormones change again, that follicle releases an egg, which then travels down the fallopian tube.
The egg is ready to be fertilized at that point, and if it isn’t fertilized it disintegrates and your period begins. If it is fertilized and implants into the uterine lining, your body starts producing HCG, which is the hormone that home pregnancy tests check for.
This whole process typically begins 2 weeks before your period is due, but there are several ways to determine if you are ovulating.
Ways to Determine Ovulation
Home Ovulation Predictor Kits
Taken just like a pregnancy test, there are tons of home tests you can try to predict your ovulation.
The worst thing about the home tests is that they can be very hard to read. You are waiting until the line from the test is as dark or darker than the control line, and it can be a little difficult to tell.
Also, some women claim the line is never as dark as the control line, leaving them feeling unclear of their ovulation.
For many women, this is a perfect tool and gives a clear picture of ovulation, but for others there is too much uncertainty surrounding this method.
Tracking your cervical mucus can be a very effective way of determining ovulation. It may seem kind of yucky, but feeling and assessing your discharge can be a good indicator of ovulation.
According to this article from Verywell Family:
- Not ovulating: dry and sticky fluid
- Ovulation is close: wet and watery fluid
- Ovulation is coming: creamy mucus
- Ovulation is happening: very wet and stretchy mucus that resembles egg whites
If you are trying to get pregnant, you should start having intercourse when the mucus is creamy and turning to egg whites.
Sperm can live up to 5 days, so there is a great chance of conceiving if you have intercourse just before ovulation as well.
This can be sort of difficult and kind of invasive to check. Basically it involves performing really good hand hygiene, and inserting your fingers into your vagina to see where your cervix is at.
Your cervix is essentially the door to your uterus. It’s usually closed (or at least mostly closed) until you are in labor and giving birth (when they say you’re 10 centimeters dilated, they’re talking about your cervix!)
If you’re close to ovulating, the cervix will be high and soft. If you are not close to ovulating, it will be low and firm.
You will probably have to check many times throughout a few cycles to really learn the difference in your cervical position. It’s not a perfect science by any means, but it can be helpful to know when looking at the full picture of your cervical mucus, ovulation predictor kit, and basal body temperature (read below).
Basal Body Temperature
This takes a lot of work, but it has been successful for many. Your basal body temperature is your temperature when you are fully at rest. There are many tracking charts you can find online, but you have to be very consistent with this method.
Guidelines for BBT testing:
- Use the same thermometer through the whole cycle
- Take the temperature at the same time every morning
- The temperature must be taken before you get up and move around, ideally within 1-2 minutes of waking
- Must check temperature every day
- Must get at least 3-4 hours of sleep before testing.
There is some debate on which kind of thermometer is best. There are special basal body temperature thermometers that go to two decimal points (this one even connects to its own tracking app) but many experts say a normal home thermometer is fine.
For more info on basal body temp testing, check out this article.
These bracelets have been all the rage lately, and I keep hearing them talked about more and more!
In fact, I’ve had a few patients tell me they have conceived thanks to Ava! As a labor nurse, I totally geek out over this sort of thing. This technology is very fascinating to me, and I’m excited to see how it continues to develop.
Ava is a bracelet that you wear to bed each night and sync with an app in the morning. It gives insights into your overall health, as well as your most fertile days. It has been clinically proven to show your FIVE most fertile days based off of your:
- Resting pulse rate
- Heart rate variability
- Breathing rate
Ava is great for women with a regular cycle who want to get pregnant fast. It even works if you have endometriosis or are breastfeeding.
It is important to note that Ava will not work for you if you have a condition that interrupts ovulation, such as polycystic ovarian syndrome. This is because people with PCOS (or other ovulation problems) have hormone levels that don’t necessarily correspond with ovulation. Therefore, Ava may detect a fertile window when there is in fact no egg released.
If you are concerned you may have an ovulation problem, speak with your OB/GYN or midwife and request an evaluation.
Ava will donate 20% of every sale to women’s health research, which is just one of the many reasons this company is awesome.
It’s a bit pricey ($299 for the basic package), but they do offer a payment plan and will give you $20 to refer to a friend. For $399, they will guarantee pregnancy within one year!
It’s also helpful to use while you’re pregnant to track your overall health and sleep.
It’s really cool, guys. It is definitely worth looking into!
Join more than 30,000 other women, and get pregnant with Ava by clicking here.
There are some conditions that affect your ability to get pregnant
There are several conditions that can affect ovulation in a woman. These include:
- Polycystic ovarian syndrome
- Mentioned above, PCOS is a common cause of infertility. PCOS causes a hormonal imbalance and problems with metabolism. Symptoms include an irregular menstrual cycle, excessive hair growth, acne, weight gain or difficulty losing weight, skin discoloration, and skin tags. If you are concerned you may have PCOS, talk to your physician. It is not difficult to diagnose, and it can be treated.
- Because of the hormone changes in people with PCOS, traditional methods of tracking ovulation are usually inaccurate. Someone with PCOS may get a positive on ovulation tests without ovulation.
- Endometriosis may affect ovulation if it becomes severe. Endometriosis occurs when tissue grows outside of the uterus and sometimes onto the ovaries, fallopian tubes, or connective tissues. Symptoms include pain in the abdomen, pelvic area, or intestinal pain, bleeding and spotting between periods, digestive issues, and infertility. Speak to your doctor if you think you could have endometriosis.
- Pelvic Inflammatory disease
- PID is an infection of a woman’s reproductive organs that can cause issues with fertility. It is usually caused by a sexually transmitted disease, and can cause many reproductive issues if not treated properly. Symptoms include fevers, pain, vaginal discharge with or without a foul odor, painful sex, irregular menstrual cycles, and difficulty urinating. PID can be diagnosed through a pelvic exam and testing for sexually transmitted infections. It is often treated with antibiotics.
If you are concerned you are not ovulating, speak to your OB/GYN or midwife about your concerns. They may refer you to a reproductive specialist, or they may be willing to track your ovulation themselves. This will require some monitoring throughout your cycle, but it is not difficult to find out if you are ovulating with blood tests and ultrasounds.
For more information regarding these health conditions, check out this article from the Office on Women’s Health.
Sometimes the inability to get pregnant is due to male infertility.
Semen quality is a crucial part of conceiving, and there are many components to consider, including:
- The number of sperm
- Overall health of the sperm
- The shape of the sperm
- The ability of the sperm to move
There may also be issues with ejaculation, ability to produce sperm, and the ability of the sperm to move out of the testicles.
As a labor nurse and a woman who has experienced infertility, I know a good deal about women’s reproductive health. However, I am not so fresh on male factor infertility. For that reason, I’m going to direct you to this site to learn more.
A few extra tips to help you get pregnant fast:
Preseed is a special type of lubricant that can help you get pregnant. This lubricant won’t harm sperm (other lubes can actually kill sperm!) and mimics vaginal fluid. It was recommended to me by the fertility clinic I went to when trying to conceive my first.
Sex every other day during your ovulation window is plenty – at most sex once per day is enough! The sperm counts can actually be lower with sex too frequently, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself!
Start taking prenatals while you’re trying to conceive, and continue them after the pregnancy if you plan to breastfeed! It’s a good idea to increase folic acid levels early, and there’s no harm in extra vitamins.
Don’t wait until you’re pregnant to quit smoking — it can harm your ability to get pregnant and can hurt the baby!
Smoking marijuana leads to a higher chance of miscarriage — it’s a good idea to avoid it when trying to conceive! And did you know that the men’s use of marijuana can DOUBLE the woman’s risk of miscarriage? Check out this post from March of Dimes to read why you should avoid marijuana altogether during pregnancy and breastfeeding.
Trying to conceive can be either very stressful, or very fun and exciting! Everyone wants to get pregnant fast, but remember, in the best case scenario, under perfect conditions, there is only a 15-25% chance of getting pregnant each month. It can take some time, and that’s perfectly normal!
Generally, the recommendation is to seek the help of an OB/GYN or reproductive endocrinologist after 1 year of trying with no pregnancies.
Good luck, and keep it fun!
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